keeping it real

hank and i are a young couple, married two years this june and in our mid-20's. having lillian has been the biggest blessing we could ask for, we dreamed of the day we would start a family and now it is real, right in front of our eyes.

but, there is still hank and i. having lillian doesn't nullify our wedding vows.

i have been thinking about this since we had her, how can hank and i keep our relationship alive independently of our children? how do we make sure we continue to challenge and love each other unconditionally? and i realized yesterday, its simple. we need to remember to always, always, always to tell each other how we are feeling. we need to be more vulnerable now than ever. we each have needs, and if we don't express those needs, we aren't being true to one and other.

"forgetfulness is the darkness, mindfulness is the light."

- thich nhat hanh

so we re-pledged to one another that we chose the light. we chose to be open and honest about what we are and are not getting from our marriage. we re-vow to never assume the other person knows how much you love them, or that your angry. everything will be put on the table to be seen and heard.

i feel refreshed. i love my husband so much and i am beyond blessed.

xo